In my unqualified opinion I offer you some thoughts.

We find ourselves dealing with tough news on what is globally regarded as the most special time and event of the year. Yet what did we honestly expect to happen? All I have seen this year is that people have consistently adapted the guidance to suit themselves and put their own needs against those of the many. I too have played a part in that, and this has just continued to lengthen this whole process for everyone.
Now we find ourselves at a Christmas cancelled, people damning the government and taking a vigilante stance. People pouring out of high infection rate areas, clambering onto packed public transport to reach family in lower tiered locations. All this so Christmas can carry on as unscathed as possible. However, all this behaviour does is continuing to accelerate infection rates across the country. This is the problem, ‘we’ are the problem. Humans by nature are selfish and self serving and this year, albeit we have shown truly heart warming signs of solidarity and caring; as a whole have reverted to type and put individual needs ahead of the bigger picture. I hope everyone still has enough toilet roll and pasta.

Imagine if we had taken it upon ourselves to go the extra mile, to be stricter with ourselves and our actions. That approach may have had this whole process reduced ten fold.

The government were faced with an impossible task and have had to adopt a reactive approach to how this pandemic was handled. Now don’t get me wrong, a lot of this doesn’t add up and I genuinely believe that the facts and figures are shall we say ‘distorted’. This does not detract though that a virus is out there with the ability to take the vulnerable from us. So in my opinion we can all hate on the government for ruining our year and Christmas, but sadly the reality is the blame lays at our feet. We have not been asked to serve our country in war, we have not been asked to relieve ourselves of our creature comforts and luxuries. All we had to do was think about our fellow man, and to date, we have failed them.

There is a lesson to be taken from everything we experience, maybe one day we will be able to collectively understand where we went wrong here.


Now let me begin by saying, I’m not fully versed in the complete history of the human race. I cannot comment a true and informed opinion to what has gone before. I do not know the repression of slavery nor the fear of ethic cleansing or any other walk of life that has endured horrific and unspeakable torment in their history.

I can only speak as an relatively well educated forty something year old man that is watching the planet he lives on self implode.

In recent weeks (in media terms) a ‘revolution’ has started. Or so we are told. Yes, it sadly does take the death of another human to cause this to fully rise to the surface. What I fear is the reality is that the actual meaning, the purpose of all of this has already been lost and overtaken by and let’s be honest here, the wanting to plain and simple cause trouble and rifts.

This is not intended to dilute the progress and awareness being made but sadly, humans are toxic by nature. The focus always falls to the negative, the media showing us the bad, the evil. Instead of not gracing those offenders with air time and headlines but promoting positive change, actually backing a movement for global equality. This age we can have multiple sources of information in our hands instantly, how and why this is never used to actually benefit the people is something I will never understand. Well in fact I do understand it, not many papers are sold with headlines like ‘peaceful protest makes great progress against inequality’ or ‘together we can achieve anything’.

As I recently discussed this subject with my friend, we are on the cusp of actual change, of actual new thinking. Generationally speaking, there is only one racist tier left, that being the one above mine and it’s not a malicious or proactive generation. More an ill informed generation. Maybe I am blinkered, maybe I can’t understand another’s history. Maybe I live looking forwards because I was always taught that what has gone before is done, it cannot be changed. Yes you can make changes from now but history is history. Of course elements of it shouldn’t be glorified but you can’t hide it. It is what has got us to this point today.

Scale it down to relationships, each bad relationship you have had, each one that has ended has formed who you are and how you think today. You don’t carry all of those bad elements through with you, you hold them as lessons and reminders not to accept those aspects anymore. It scales back up to this. We have to learn and evolve. Not harbour and regress.

The more baggage you carry the slower you move. Nothing will ever be forgotten, that is why it is history.

This piece is written with Britain in mind, I cannot relate my thoughts to any other country than my own, but one thing is clear. If America do not change their police force from operating way above the law to working for the law and for communities then situations like this will always arise. The British police force are nothing short of amazing humans, all of the emergency services are. They put themselves between us and harms way, they’re not armed to the teeth, they just stand there as people, protecting other people. They do not get the credit they deserve.

We have to ability to achieve such great change. We can realistically move into the genuine prospect of a new world. You hear so many people announce they are going on a social media break. Firstly, I’m not too sure why you have to announce that to something you’re leaving but maybe we as a culture need to have a break from the over saturation of information we absorb on social media. Maybe news as a whole needs to be rebranded and restructured to actually promote hope and positivity and not drown us in version after version of negativity of the same pieces of information.

Maybe instead trying to change history we should accept the scars the human race has given itself and start afresh.



Edging towards 9 weeks of personal lockdown certain things have been made very clear throughout this time. In fact they are probably things that were always very evident but, this extended period of away time from each other certainly brings a lot of thought processing to the forefront.

That is not a claim to over-thinking, it is one if realistic thinking. I returned from my winter break with a very clear vision in my mind to how the rest of my life was to be. A defined clarity that I had never experienced before. Always one for ideas and ventures, this time everything was refined. A direction set out in 4K crystal clear realisation.

Obviously the current environment we are all as a planet are experiencing has some what jarred momentum but the goal remains the same nonetheless. Meetings of creative minds and the desire to leave a mark on this world are more at the forefront of my world than ever. In these eight plus weeks I have spoken to people that are scattered across the globe, the creative future is incredibly bright.

We are currently in a place where all that can be moved to one side, this is a time for basic communication. A time to make sure those important to us are ok. It’s here where I have been touched the most. People from different pockets of my life making personal efforts to check on my well being, my mindset and health. The fact that these are the people that I wouldn’t have expected to step into the light makes it all the more special, pair that to those expected to do the same have fallen by the wayside. Life is nothing short of surprises. Still, doors remain open. I just don’t feel obliged to go knocking anymore.

So be it new roots in Italy, Australia or Singapore. I know that a creative future is the pathway before me. I’m glad all those close to me appear to be ok and dealing with things well, in their own way. So if you’re dreaming of horse riding, visiting loved ones or just once more feeling that skin on skin interaction then I hope those missing elements return to you all safely and swiftly.

Work as hard as you can for the things you want, but don’t be a fool to how you use your time. It won’t happen tomorrow, it won’t happen the day after but each step taken towards whatever you want will never be a day wasted.



The first day of summer is here and it’s probably a little different to how we were expecting it to be.

Still, making these simple sacrifices in the short term to help and protect those around you is not a big ask in the grand scheme of things. Personally, aside from early morning runs, I haven’t stepped outside my house for two weeks. Im not saying that as a ‘look at me and my efforts’ but more highlighting that just your own individual efforts can make huge differences to the numbers of people that this pandemic will effect dramatically. Removing myself from the daily grind has taken a fair slice of interactions off the board. Four trains a day, all the stations and platforms of people, no meetings or inspections, no gym visits and shopping trips to a bare minimum. Just these changes will help everyone and the better we do it the quicker this will all be over for us all.

As an individual it hasn’t overly impacted me and my lifestyle. It’s more adaption to the circumstances, for example there’s no gym facility so I train indoors, yes with limited equipment but this is how it is so adjust your nutrition accordingly. Although I do have some additional timber to shift now.

I am noting that time has become very linear. Weekdays and weekends are starting to blur and because I’m working solely at home I’m working for longer with fewer breaks (none actually). I’m mindful of this so I make sure the weekend days I do things very different to work hours.

Don’t allow this time on your hands to become your enemy, utilise it. Read books, enrol in some online course, learn new skills. You have to keep your mind focused and active, this will be the key to surviving this lockdown period as best we can. Keep a diary of what you’re thinking and feeling and make sure you stay in contact with those important to you as t he y may not be doing so well. Communication is key here, key to our own and our loved ones well being. That’s not to say if you’re having a tough day you can’t scream out your frustrations at the top of your lungs. That’s equally as healthy.

So, enjoy our current unique summer arrangements and remember, it won’t be long until we’re packing our cases again for some more traditional well earned space and down time.

Stay safe, stay busy. SD


We all think we’re bulletproof, we all think that if we should contract this virus then we will more than likely just get over it in a few days. To all intents and purposes that is probably accurate, we will get over it.
The thing is, this isn’t about us. This is about those around us. The people in our lives that this particular period of time could have a profound impact on.
We are being asked to take personal measures to help others. That to date, is currently where we are letting ourselves down.
No one will starve, no one will lose there homes. You should not need additional reasons to stay in your home to help your fellow man.

The irony is those acting selfishly and queuing outside supermarkets to strip the shelves bare, are the ones putting themselves most at risk.

I’m not a politician, nor am I a preacher but I have always had a set of values.
Take what you need, and leave some for the next man.

I hope common sense and a moral responsibility beds itself in soon as current actions will not only make this far worse, but also a greatly increased timeline.

Please be safe, and please be considerate.



A world gone mad. How many times have we heard that phrase? It has turned into a little bit of a ‘boy cries wolf’ situation hasn’t it. Yet here we go again, a new virus meandering through the world making headlines by the hour. Note I say meandering and not something like tearing or racing. This is a slow burn, the early figures in itself indicate that.

I get that the government have to be over cautious. If they down play something and it turns out be a lot worse there will be lynchings. I for one actually think the world as a whole has got a good grip on this. Solid advice, practical advice, common sense advice.

But what does this actually all mean? What is the reality for us day-to-dayers? Image result for empty shelves

As I write this it is day one of working form home. Work has to be done, doesn’t matter where you are or what the situation is. What I don’t understand is the panic buying, the frenzied shopping. What does this achieve? How and where does it start? Why toilet roll and pasta? How long do you think you will be at home for? Are you planning to eat poorly prepared pasta meals every day that give you explosive diarrhoea? Where is the logic and what are the thought processes? I think the problem lies in what we hear will happen to us should we contract this particular strain of the flu (because that is all it is when you analyse it) or what we actually think will happen to us. We know the symptoms, we know those at risk and we know that most of us will get over the infection with no real disruption. So why the paranoia? It started out as a low probability entity that we would be unlikely to come in contact with. To now being pitched that we will get it, there is nothing you can do now to escape it’s wrath! Yes there is. Wash your hands regularly as you should be doing anyway, don’t cough or sneeze out into the air, something you shouldn’t be doing anyway and don’t go round licking other peoples eyeballs. Not that tricky is it. Yet you walk the train and underground platforms of London and people are either launching cough and sneeze plumes into the air or dressed as if they’re returning from an acid house rave.Image result for coronavirus

We adopt a survival mentality that shows the ugly side of humanity. It’s not a survival mentality of solidarity but one of every man for himself. Which is just plain sad.

I have done my shopping, just my usual shopping buying the things I buy weekly and seeing the state of the shelves is just bizarre. You see more on the shelves in an episode of The Walking Dead than in supermarkets lately. Maybe that is where this is heading? I jokingly said a couple of weeks ago that people are assuming that if you contract the virus that we will immediately go into a Total Recall-esque seizure. Could it be I was close?Image result for total recall eyes

How the situation has evolved in such a short time frame is quite staggering. Facts about annual influenza are pretty solid. Every year the world suffers a great loss in life and no one really pays too much attention. The problem is when things are given names, it makes it real, beyond real. Like a superhero. You can’t defeat a superhero. You therefore can’t defeat SwineFlu, Corona, Uncle Albert virus or whatever else you want to call something. Give it an identity and you grant it power over us. We have gone from practical steps that help manage a situation to borderline chaos, all when nothing has actually changed. I think it’s because we fill in the blanks ourselves. The things we don’t know we create and accept as fact. If you fart, burp, sneeze and cough in under a minute you will die from Corona. It happened to my friend. And so urban legend and hysteria are born.

Let’s just remain calm, follow the solid and practical advice and keep ourselves informed. Do that and you never know, we might just live to tell the tale.


Or, could this be a man made virus sanctioned by the world powers to control the human population……


Phase 1: Depression

This is pretty much the saddest state of existence you’ll ever find a woman in. We’re complete emotional wrecks. But it’s OK, because that’s exactly how we want to be. We’re feeling the breakup. The anger, the frustration, the jealousy, the sadness, the loneliness, the fear — we’re letting it all simmer together, right at the surface if not already boiling over into one steaming hot mess. This is a time where we don’t really have a grasp on any of our thoughts or emotions and we’re not really trying to have one, either. Where literally everything and anything reminds us of you. It doesn’t really matter what it is, or if makes any sense at all; we’re allowing ourselves to be totally susceptible — to everything. In fact, there are only two rules: 1) let it out, and 2) do not, under any circumstances, see him.

Where she stands on you:
She misses you, is driving herself nuts wondering what (or rather who) you’re up to (yes, we know how you guys do) and she might just be ready to drop everything in a heartbeat if means getting back together. If you’re a dick you’ll take advantage of this and pull her back in, and it will be all too easy, and everything might be normal and “happy” again for two weeks until your next fight and then you’re back to this all over again. (Yeah, this is where that starts.) But if you ever really cared for her at all, you’ll give her the space she needs to get through this. You might get a few (read: 1 million) texts and several incredibly long, incredibly desperate-sounding emails, but leave it be. Her friends will be there for her, I promise. Let her go through the motions.

Phase 2: Numbness

This is the actual sad part. (And this time I actually mean heartbreaking.) It’s the part where she doesn’t have any more tears to cry, or anger to feel, or energy to eat or care about anything in general. Where things like getting fresh air and taking a shower are literally written down on a ‘to do’ list and are considered accomplishments for the day. Not much goes on in this period except for a ton of thinking, and it can last anywhere from a good few days up to several weeks. It really comes down to the type of person she is, and the kind of self-talk she’s capable of. Because there is an unnatural amount of self-doubt going on in her head, and it doesn’t matter what was said or how it was done, or if it really was you and not her. At this point, as far as she’s concerned, this is about her not being or doing enough. As a person. And she’s analyzing every minute of everyday you spent together trying to figure out where she failed.

Where she stands on you:
She’s still missing you, desperately. The comfort, the routine, her best friend. The only difference now is that she’s cut out the chatter and the soundboards. She’s not looking from any more opinions, she’s just thinking. A lot. Like all day, every day. And despite trying to understand what all went wrong, she’s also just taking note of all that went wrong. She’s feeling less, and listening more. She’s sorting it out for herself. Oh, and her family officially hates you by the way. And that is something you will probably never make up again, regardless of how this turns out.

Phase 3: Justification

This is phase is usually the first sign of light after a very dark, very long and winding tunnel. And really, it can only happen once she’s had to go through literally every emotion and memory she has. She’s starting to understand why things turned out the way they did. And she’s starting to get that, after plenty of review, any problems you guys had were in fact both of your faults, and also that you are an idiot. For not fighting for her, sure, but mostly for not realizing what you just let go. That part is going to mess you up when it hits. (And we both know it’s going to hit). And also, it’s now been weeks and you haven’t even checked in once, so really, how much could you have loved her anyway? Clearly, this was for the better. And truthfully, there is a part of her that that knew you weren’t the one. Yes, maybe you talked about where you’d honeymoon, and what you’d call your babies, but deep down, there was a reason she never canceled her birth control prescription.

Where she stands on you:
At this point, you can bet that she’s pretty comfortable in your separation. In fact, she’s actually even starting to enjoy her newfound space; doing what she wants when she wants it, how she wants to, pants on or off. Her feelings of you now are very much buried. She’s probably cut you off completely, and removed anyone and anything associated with you from her life as well. For now anyway. She needs to focus on her and get back to her amazing, independent, pre-you self; because you have to get rid of the bad stuff in order to make room for the good stuff.

Phase 4: Rebounding

I mean, this part is pretty straightforward, I think. She’s been inside sulking for an unhealthy amount of time of time, and there’s no sign of you coming back, so might as well move on with it and get back on the horse, so to speak. You made your choice and it wasn’t her, and that means that there is, obviously, someone better out there, wondering where the hell she is already. And by God, she’s going to find him, and have some fun doing it.

Where she stands on you:
…What was your name again?

Phase 5: Self-Work

By now she’s got her mojo back and is, at the very least aware that she’s still got ‘it’, and at the very most high-fiving her vagina for showing her that life is indeed worth living. The rebounding is bringing back her confidence on all the outside stuff, and some good old fashioned self healing is doing it for the inside. She’s now going to the gym a minimum of three times a week. Partly because if she ever does have the pleasure ignoring you in person at some point in the near future she’s going to make sure you you notice it, and partly because screw you.

Wiser, stronger, tighter; that’s the mission. And, while it may be the case that all her crap with you brought this on, none of this is because of you, or even in spite of you; this is 100% for her. Getting healthy; both mentally and physically stronger than she was before is her new power. The growth she needs to protect herself. From rejection, from falling for the wrong guy, and from ever getting that low again. Also, it feels really good to imagine your face meeting her glove when she’s having a go at that punching bag.

Where she stands on you:
Funny enough, while it sounds like there may be a lot of anger at the root of this phase, the truth is that she’s probably seeing all this, and you, as something more like a blessing. She may be a little annoyed at the time that was wasted or how things were handled, but the humility and self-awareness that is coming from all this really only allows for appreciation and thanks. So you’re off the hook. (Kind of.)

Phase 6: The Relapse

The relapse is inevitable. It could be six months after the breakup or it could be six years; either way, it’s not necessarily because she misses you. No, it’s usually more to do with the fact that modern dating is so damn hard, and seems to get harder the older you get. Especially after you’ve been let down by love. Especially when you’re hyper-aware and protective of your time and energy and hold your independence in high esteem.

The truth is, after what she went through over you, the next (serious) guy is, for better or worse, going to have be willing to jump through some serious hoops. And that’s hard to find. So yeah, she’s going to think of you, naturally. She’s going to compare every guy to you and what you said and did and how well you did it. She’s going to miss not having to try because you already did all that. The harder it is for her in the dating game, the more you’ll be on her mind.

Where she stands on you:
While you are on her mind a lot while she’s out there dating, it’s more as a point of reference. You see, she’s not really missing you the person, so much as she’s missing you the boyfriend, and all the goodness that comes with that. The friendship, the inside jokes, the comfort, and the familiarity. That’s what she’s longing for, and might sometimes be confusing for love. That’s not to say that it never actually is love — and considering we do move in opposite directions, this may be your last chance if you’re hoping to rekindle — but usually, something inside us wakes up and snaps us out of it first.

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Phase 7: Just Plain Over It

Finally ready to move on, this is the last stop on her way to singlehood bliss. After all the crying and sexing and healing and then crying again, she’s basically sick and tired of being sick and tired over you. And that’s what turns the page in the end; not wise words, not anger, not dates — emotional exhaustion. It may hit each of us in different ways and at different points in our lives, but it does eventually hit us all, and when it does — it’s final. No more second chances, no more what-ifs and what-could-bes; just getting the hell on with it and letting life take the lead. Whether it’s been because of you, or after you, or in spite of you, the fact is at some point she got tired of hearing herself relate everything back to you, and decided to let go. Of all of it.

Where she stands on you:
If you’re one of those guys who thinks you can dump a girl into changing and plays that insanely slow long game to win her back all along, joke’s on you, because this ship has already sailed. To put it frankly, you’ve taken up too much of her damn time, and she is painfully aware of it. And while she may have loved you once, and cried over you a thousand times, at this point you’re really just a good lesson and a memory in her mind.


It’s unfortunate, but plenty of people feel intimidated at the thought of joining a gym. Walking into a huge open room with hundreds of mysterious machines is tough and what’s worse is that the members seem to be in great shape and know exactly what they’re doing. It’s not hard to see why so many people think they’re too out of shape to join a gym.

The good news is that there are many choices for how and where you workout and each gym offers a different type of atmosphere. The trick is to find one that feels welcoming to you.

Why Gyms Can Be Intimidating 

Navigating the gym can throw anyone for a loop, even experienced exercisers. It’s normal to experience those fears when you join a gym and it’s not hard to see why when you look at how some health clubs are set up.

  • Open spaces – If you’re looking for privacy during workouts, joining a large gym may not be for you. In many health clubs, the workout areas are open with cardio machines lined up behind one another and weight machines sprawled out across the floor. Some group fitness rooms may be lined with windows so people can see in and some find this uncomfortable when just getting started with exercise.
  • Confusing machinery – Treadmills, bikes, elliptical trainers, balls, bands, weight machines…all that equipment can be very confusing if you’ve never used them before. The fear of looking stupid is something we all experience when trying new things and the overwhelming choices can add to that fear.
  • Aggressive salespeople – Working up the courage to visit a gym can be hard for some people and, if you’re shy, an aggressive salesperson may intimidate you even more. Not all health clubs are like that, but many do put pressure on you to sign up. Many people find themselves signing over their firstborn without even being sure they want a membership at all.
  • Hardcore exercisers – Every gym has regulars and some can be a little intimidating if you make an honest mistake (like taking too long on a machine or not putting your weights back in the right place). Though you’ll find most members are helpful and nice, not all gym-goers are patient with newcomers and it can be scary to navigate the gym with these types of people.
  • Comparing Yourself to Others – Though there are a wide variety of gym-goers, big and small, there are always going to be those people that seem to have “perfect bodies.” Many newbies can be intimidated when they see this, not remembering that everybody starts off as a beginner at one point or another, and that comparing yourself to others isn’t a fair thing to do.

Find the Right Gym for You

If you tend to be intimidated by gyms, but you still want a place you can work out, there are some other options out there for you. All it takes is a little time and research to find the right place for you.

Choosing Your Health Club 

There are many factors to consider when choosing a health club, from location to membership fees and contracts. But none of that matters if it doesn’t have the right kind of atmosphere.

When looking for a gym, you want to find a place where you feel comfortable and that might not always be at the nearest chain such as 24 Hour Fitness, Bally’s, Gold’s, or Lifetime Fitness. Although these types of gyms usually offer a wide range of services and classes, the large spaces and sometimes aggressive salespeople can make it uncomfortable for some. For more individualized and caring attention as well as a welcoming atmosphere, check out some of these ideas.


The YMCA is a non-profit community service organization focusing on family health and wellness. Though each one is different, most offer a relaxed atmosphere, friendly staff and a great place for families to exercise and play together. Check into your local YMCA to see what kinds of programs they have to offer, both for kids and adults.

Jewish Community Centers 

The JCC is another family-friendly place offering everything from gym workouts to group fitness classes. Like the YMCA, they also offer plenty of camps and programs for kids as well as daycare services. And you don’t have to be Jewish to join.

Local Recreation Centers 

Many cities and towns have a Parks & Recreation Department offering fitness classes (for adults and kids), fitness centers, kids programs and more. These types of places are often casual and relaxed rather than ‘hardcore’ like some other types of gyms. You can often join fitness classes (like yoga or tai chi) without having to pay a gym membership and it’s a great place to meet your neighbors without feeling like you’re in a competitive atmosphere.

Check with your local parks department to find out what’s available in your town.

Hospital-Based Gyms 

Many hospitals now offer gym services, which is a great choice whether you have a medical condition or not. The staff at these types of gyms are usually very well-trained and, of course, you have access to medical advice if you need it.

Women-Only Clubs 

These types of clubs (like Curves) usually offer 30-minute circuits that combine strength and aerobic training in one workout. Because they’re women-only and no-frills, many women feel comfortable working out in this type of environment.

One drawback is that doing the same workout for too long can lead to weight loss plateaus and boredom.

The hydraulic machines preclude any weighted eccentric movements (the lowering of the weight). Although Curves claims this is safer and reduces injury, this actually means that muscles aren’t being trained functionally. Muscles need to be able to handle the weight (whether it’s with machines or picking up a child) through a full range of motion. Still, this can be a great place for beginners, especially if you stay month-to-month.

Personal Training Studios 

Many personal training studios are small and a bit more homey than big gyms. You may find it more comfortable to work out in this type of environment and you may even be able to schedule private sessions with a trainer. The only downside is that you usually can’t use it as you would a gym (i.e., showing up at any time for a workout) but only for individual sessions with your trainer.

Build Your Confidence at the Gym 

If you decide to join a gym, there are some things you can do to make the experience easier and more enjoyable:

  • Set up an orientation. Many gyms offer new member orientations where a trainer shows you around and teaches you how to use the machines. This service is usually free and once you know how the machines work, you’ll feel much more comfortable about showing up for your workouts.
  • Hire a personal trainer. A personal trainer can set you up with a full workout based on your goals. He or she can also educate you on good form, teach you how to use the machines and be your support as you learn new activities.
  • Workout with a buddy. It’s always easier to do something with support and walking into a gym is much easier with a friend along. Find a friend or relative with similar goals to join a gym with you, if you can.
  • Choose less busy hours. Most gyms have busy times such as early morning, lunchtime, and after work. To avoid the crowds, you can schedule your workouts for mid-afternoon or even late at night, if that works for you.

It’s important to know that the gym isn’t for everyone, so you shouldn’t feel you have to join one to get a great workout. You can easily set up your own home gym, use workout videos or take your workouts outside. You can also hire in-home personal trainers to get one-on-one instruction without the distraction of other exercisers.


Champagne Parfait Cocktail
This champagne parfait cocktail is a wonderfully bubbly, light and festive drink that is perfect for toasting at Christmas Eve dinner. Take your favorite champagne (or any sparkling wine, Prosecco, Brut…really anything with bubbles!), with a little bit of gin, your favorite fruit liqueurs and fresh berries to create a beautiful drink. The different berries (like cranberries or blackberries) will float at different levels, creating that classic parfait look.

La Vie En Rouge
La Vie En Rouge (“Life in Red”) mixes Grand Marnier, fresh cranberry juice (use the real stuff so it’s not too sugary!) and fresh rosemary for a wonderfully fragrant Christmas Eve cocktail. It is a very simple cocktail to make, making it perfect for a big party, but it’s bright flavor makes for a great after-dinner drink. Float a few real cranberries in the glass for an even more festive look.

Christmas Eve Hot Chocolate (for adults)
Are you the kind of person that loves to have a coffee after dinner? Well this recipe mixes coffee, chocolate and liquor–so how can you go wrong?! You can obviously make the coffee flavor stronger or weaker to suit your tastes (or use decaf so you aren’t up too late), or even add a little cream to the mix to create an even smoother and silkier finished cup.

Holiday Sparkler
Don’t want to spend your night mixing individual drinks? Then go for a punch bowl of the Holiday Sparkler! With Cava, fresh mint, triple sec, lime juice and cranberry juice, it’s a bright and festive Christmas Eve drink you can make the day before your party to let the flavors really develop. The Holiday Sparkler also makes for a great substitute for mimosas during Christmas Day brunch.

Mulled Wine
Also known as Glogg or gluwein, this spicy hot wine drink is perfect on a good Christmas Eve. All you really need is your favorite (and cheap!) dry red wine, Port wine, Grand Marnier, and a whole bunch of oranges and some cinnamon sticks! You can cook it up on the stove, or even make it in a Crockpot so you can keep it warm throughout the evening and ladle out glasses as needed!

Mistletoe Martini
The Mistletoe Martini is a mix of chilled cranberry tea (pick your favorite brand!, orange and lemon juices and vodka. A little bit of sugar cuts through the tart flavors for a bright and tasty Christmas Eve cocktail.

It wouldn’t be Christmas without a cool and creamy glass of eggnog. You can buy the eggnog from the store (or make it yourself if you’re feeling extra fancy!) With bourbon (and spice rum if you like) this smooth Christmas Eve drink is a classic for a good reason, it’s delicious!