HOW TO GET A GIRL TO THINK ABOUT YOU

Want to be the man that she constantly thinks about? It will be pretty simple after reading this article because I tell you how women think, and how to make a girl think about you non-stop! You have to connect on another level that most men don’t know how to do. So many women think, “If he only knew!” Well, you will know! 

This article is designed to not only keep it real with you, but also to highlight something that has worked for many clients that have been able to get women to think about them non-stop. We women desire to be wanted by a man just like a man desires to be wanted from a woman. But the ultimate connection happens when you understand how a woman thinks. We are completely different than men in the way we process things and in terms of what makes us fall in love.

I invite you to leave comments or ask questions below in the comment section as I always love hearing from you!

How to make a girl want you…

It all starts with the emotional connection when you are able to connect with her. An emotional connection does not mean that you get overly emotional and attached, but it does mean you voice your desires early on. This means you show her that you are the guy that she wants. The time that you spend with her is very important in the attraction phase. Make sure you remain calm, cool and collected while you are attracting her. You do fun things and make things pretty light-hearted early on. Do not put pressure on her. She has to want to desire you. This is how you make your presence known.

So, once you start going out on dates and you want her to think about you non-stop, the goal is to remain in control of the situation. Do not tell her you want to be with her on the first, second, or third date. Also, do not get mad at petty things and throw a line like, “What kind of girl are you? Are you looking for something serious?” This is too aggressive.

I see many men going in head first too soon. Listen, things come up in life so try not to respond with ego if something happens. Let things progress naturally and do not try to force anything. The attraction phase is vital for this. This is when the woman is still trying to figure out if she desires you, if she desires you sexually, and if she desires to be with you long term. This is a sensitive area that a lot of men mess up. Keep in mind that a girl does not know you when you are in the beginning stages. This is what women find attractive. I actually talk about 17 traits that make a woman attracted to you that you should check out after this.

A surefire way to spark her interest is to pace yourself and get to know her. You’ll have her attention when she sees that you are holding yourself of value. Men are visual creatures and when you see a perfect girl, you tend to go all in too soon because you’ve already decided this is what you wanted. But she hasn’t decided this yet. So, in turn, you start to get too intense, too early on. You may start assuming the worst of things if things do not go exactly how you want. Then you jump to conclusions and she could end up seeing you as someone who might not be secure with themselves or who might be too clingy in the future. This is what kills attraction. I bring this up now because this is something that happens often and in order to get her thinking about you non-stop, you have to make sure you do not kill the attraction early on.

How to get her with these 4 pro tips!


So you have been going on dates and things can be going well or semi-well. Here is what you do:

Tip #1 Do not be predictable! This is the most important thing of all. You want to show balance so she knows that she has to still to attract you and that she still has to do some work to get you. Example: If you text her “Good morning” or “Good night” all the time, then let her do it, too. Do not be the only one doing this as she has to show up in her ways too. Also, do not respond to her text to early on so she can get excited to see you on her phone. Let the anticipation build up before she sees you again.

Tip #2 – Be mysterious. Let her wonder what you are doing. Do not post every single second on social media about what you’re doing, what you’re eating, or what you’re thinking. Post less if you are active on social media. Also, mysterious means disappearing. You don’t want to disappear for too long but you want to disappear just enough so she wonders to what you are up too. If she texts you in the morning, say something like this later on that night:

“I’ve had such a busy day! I hope your day was great as well. I’m going to head to bed as I have a long day tomorrow. I’ll talk to you soon and goodnight.”

Then text her again in the morning so she sees you are present but still have a life of your own. This shows her that she is not yet your priority and ultimately women love this. It shows her that you have a sense of stability in your life and that you are fulfilled with the way you live it.

Tip #3 Do this a couple times. There are some coaches that will tell you to go off the radar for days but let’s be honest – if a woman is attractive she is not going to be turned on by this because she could think it’s shady. Instead, pop in and out on your terms. You are the busy one! Keep this up for about three days. When you start to engage in normal conversationagain she is going to be thinking, “What is he up to?” She might think things like, “What is he doing that he is so invested in that he is not giving me all the time in his day?”
This stands out from a lot of other men and what they are doing right now. Remember you want to be less predictable which enhances the attraction phase. Most of the time this girl might even say, “When am I going to see you again?!” This is what you want!

Tip #4 Making the plans after being busy. Let me clarify what I mean. You want to pop in here and there, but be less attentive during this 3 or 4 days. Do not reply to her texts all the time and don’t be too available. When you start chatting with her again, focus the conversations back on her and what she has been up to. Tell her you have been busy and that work has been crazy. You don’t want to fully answer exactly what you have been doing so you can spark the mystery.

Once you do this schedule something with her eventually. Why? The time that passes will get her excited to see you again. That time that passes will get her looking forward to a date with you. Say something like this when planning a date: “Hey, I’m busy the next two days but have some time Friday night. Would you like a grab a drink around 7 pm?” Make sure your texts are simple and to the point. You never want to become her text buddy.

How to make a girl like you more!

The ultimate way to get a girl to want you or to think about you more is by living a life that you truly love. Never forget about your goals and aspirations, and do something daily that gets you closer to them. This is the ultimate source of attraction. Women love this! A man that is comfortable in his own skin and that has taken the time to work on himself and his own insecurities really play a part in a woman’s life. Not only because he is putting himself first, but because he sees himself as a desirable man. At the end of the day, if YOU see it then the chances of her seeing it will be increased. The man that always holds himself with pride and dignity is the man that will win. If a woman is not reciprocating then you walk away with your head up because you continue to put yourself first, just like you would want your woman to do the same.

BEST DATING SITES

OkCupid: Free with additional pay-for features, okcupid.com

When you sign up to OkCupid, the website gives you the opportunity to choose what you’re looking for. And it’s not just “marriage” or “a quickie”. You can choose between a short-term relationship, a long-term relationship and the very contemporary moniker of “hookup”. When it comes to defining what you’re actually looking for, you can choose from 22 different genders, including non-binaries and agenders.

Next, you’re asked a series of 15 questions – ranging from “How important is religion to you?” and “Do you enjoy discussing politics?”. All of these are optional and you also have the ability to say how your ideal partner would respond to them. There are some niche questions too. Like, when asked about whether you could date someone who does drugs, one of the optional responses is “Yes, but only soft stuff like marijuana”.

Then, the website’s algorithm sets about finding you matches. The website is active in more than 200 countries worldwide and has been running for 15 years. It’s safe to say that if you have a very specific checklist, this is the dating site for you. There are additional features you can pay for (such as having no ads, seeing a list of who’s liked you before you’ve liked them, seeing who has read your messages etc), but the site is fully functional without these.

It’s also got one of the most fun designs of the lot, with a continued option to improve your matches by giving you random questions to respond to e.g. “Are sex and intimacy the same thing?”

eHarmony: Memberships from £12.95 per month, eharmony.co.uk

This dating site is unique. Not just because it’s been around more more than a decade – it launched in the UK in 2008 – but because it uses a special “intelligent compatibility matching system” to pair singletons according to 18 dimensions of compatibility. It sounds complicated, but in the world of matchmaking, maybe that’s what you need, because the more tech going into finding your matches, the more likely they are to be suited to you. 

There are also more than 60 million members around the world, with five million in Britain alone, so there’s plenty to choose from. When you join, you begin by taking a comprehensive relationship questionnaire designed to determine what it is you’re looking for. Then, like other sites, it will draw up a list of matches for you to peruse at your leisure. Once you’ve matched with someone, you can start chatting to them and set up a date, if you like. 

What’s useful about eHarmony is that it offers “guided communication” options, which means if you’re struggling to craft a message that is cool but shows you’re interested without being too keen (yes, dating is complex), you’ll be given some ice-breaker questions to choose from. Ideal. You will need a paid subscription in order to start speaking to someone, so do bear this in mind when you sign up. The website looks slick without being intimidating, which is a good combination in the realm of dating websites.

Elite Singles: Memberships from £24.95 per month, elitesingles.co.uk

The idea of “elite” dating has surged in recent years, with companies like Raya and The Inner Circle leading the way on the app scene by filtering through its applicants before allowing them onto its platform. Are they intelligent enough? Are they famous enough? Do they have enough Instagram followers? Such are the questions designed to narrow one’s dating pool and boost the chances of like-minded matches.

Elite Singles offers a similar service by calling for members who “hold above-average education”. It’s available in more than 20 countries worldwide and boasts roughly 13 million users. As opposed to simply loading you up with matches as the days go by, the website works by sending its singletons three to seven matches each day based on your preferences, location and responses to a personality test.

Speaking of the test, it’s one of the most detailed on the web, with more than 200 questions covering everything from politics to food preferences. There’s a psychological hook too, given that the test is based on the Big Five personality traits, which consist of openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, neuroticism. Its website design is nothing to write home about, but the selection process is the main attracting factor for users here.

Match.com: Memberships from £9.99 per month, match.com

There have been 443,855 marriages among Match.com users in the UK alone. That is a stat worth taking note of. The popular dating site is active in 25 countries. It’s unique in that not only does it have a super sophisticated algorithm designed to find you the best matches, but it also monitors the time that you’re logged on and will try to set you up with people who also happen to be online at that time. It’s terribly Black Mirror, but it might just find you a lifelong partner. Match.com also organises events for its users, giving people the chance to meet in real life in a safe, mixer-like environment.

Soulmates: Memberships from £16 per month, soulmates.theguardian.com

The Guardian’s dating website has been pairing star-crossed lovers since 2004, which is practically a millennia in the relatively young world of online dating.

It’s different in that it allows users to actually browse profiles before joining. If you see someone who catches your eye, then you can sign up to one of its paid subscription options. You can join for free, of course, but this leaves you with limited options in terms of what information you can list on your profile and how many photographs you can add.

As a paid subscriber, you’re given the option of advanced searches and most importantly, messaging, which you can’t do otherwise, rendering joining without paying somewhat pointless. It goes without saying that this is a good one for Guardian readers to join considering 80 per cent of its members are among that demographic.

My Single Friend: Memberships from £10.50 per month, mysinglefriend.com

My Single Friend was co-founded by Channel 4 presenter Sarah Beeney in 2004. The original USP of this site was that users were required to relinquish control and put their friends in the driving seat: they were the ones who designed your profile according to their vision of you and what kind of partner would be best suited to your needs. Now, though, that system seems to be largely defunct and singletons are encouraged to create their own profiles like they would on any other dating site.

Like most of its counterparts, My Single Friend is free to join, but you must be a paid subscriber in order to read messages from potential matches and send a custom reply. So it’s probably worth paying, otherwise you might find yourself in a bit of a pickle when it comes to trying to get the attention of any potential partners.

It also has a useful search function, which means you can type in what you’re looking for (based on age, gender and location) and instantly see a whole host of users. In a more advanced search option, you can find out which users are the most popular on the site (i.e. have the most matches) and who is online at the same time as you.

Dating Direct: Memberships from £12.99 per month, datingdirect.com

Dating Direct is very handy in that it gives users access to more than 20 million users across Europe – and five million in the UK alone. It also sends out a daily email to its members with six profiles of people you might be interested in. This is useful, because often half the battle with using dating sites is actually finding the motivation to trawl through endless profiles.

Which are very detailed, by the way. You can include some quick facts at the top of your profile, such as whether you want children or not and whether you’re a smoker. Then, scroll down and you can add some more info about your likes and dislikes and what you’re looking for in a partner.

You can also choose to browse the site in “incognito mode”, which enables you to view dating profiles discreetly and only appear to members who you have already expressed an interest in. Or you can browse in “zen mode”, which means you’ll only be contacted by people whose profiles match your stated criteria.

Plenty of Fish: Free with additional pay-for features, pof.com

Plenty of Fish is one of the biggest dating websites around, with more than 150 million registered users worldwide. Established in Vancouver, Canada in 2003, the site has been leading the way on the digital dating scene for many years now, and claims to be responsible for creating more relationships than any other free dating app.

Its interface is nothing special and looks a bit like it might be trying to sell you software as opposed to true love, but considering how long this company has been in the dating game for, clearly they know a thing or two about finding romance online. So maybe we shouldn’t let appearance deceive us in this instance.

Plus, if you’re feeling despondent, the website has an entire section dedicated to documenting its success stories, which are straight outta a Richard Curtis film. The most essential features (messaging, searching and matching) are all free, but users can pay a little extra for special benefits, such as seeing who has liked your profile you before you’ve matched with them.

The verdict: Dating websites

Ultimately, OkCupid wins in terms of appearance, diversity and opportunities. In the murky world of online dating, it seems to be one of the least stressful and easiest sites to use. Good luck.

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