So, how can you prevent yourself from totally losing it while you prepare to leave your soul-sucking day job? 

Here are a few suggested ways you can pass the time plus tips I’ve put together after doing it myself. (The 10+ years of helping other creative women keep their sanity at the tail end of their day jobs doesn’t hurt, either.)

1. Try to make it a game (especially if you’re competitive!) to help your timeline go quicker.  Whether it’s “How fast can I get this done without majorly screwing it up?” or “ If my boss says ‘um’ 100 times this week, then I’m taking myself out to lunch”, it counts. At the end of each week, tell your partner/roommate/mom how many times you “won” that week and try to “win” more the next!

2. Give yourself a visual reminder of why you’re still there/what’s awaiting you, and put it up within constant eyesight in your cube/office, on the wall, on your desktop, etc. I put up my When I Grow Up logo, another client put up a poster she designed, and another drew Post-Its with scenes of what she planned on doing when she quit, like yoga on a beach, for example. If it represents “freedom” to you, then you have my full approval.

3. Find time to leave the office during the day, no matter how short the amount of time, no matter the circumstances. Take a field trip. Call a friend. Read a book. Take pictures. Fake food poisoning that mysteriously showed up for an hour and then left. Know what? They recommend this for people who like their jobs, too! You need air, perspective, and a little bit of time each day to let your brain focus on you — just you — so you can tell remind yourself this is temporary and the good life is coming. 

4. Start and end your day in ways that feel good. Instead of just waking up, taking a shower, getting dressed and heading right to work, what can you do for yourself before walking out the door? No need for it to be extensive, especially if you’re not a morning person (like me)! What will take 10 minutes or less, but still be a piece of the morning you actually look forward to? Think about reading your favorite magazine, or dancing to your favorite song, or doing a few sun salutations. Then, ask yourself the same question about the end of your day! I write quickly in my journal and read a chapter of my book before shutting off the light every night– that’s just for me. My copywriter says she indulges in her skin care routine and makes a mini spa in her bathroom before bed. By bookending your days with things that feel good, you’re ensuring you get something out of each day that passes while you count down to your day job exit!   

5. Set an intention at the start of every day, and if you can, write or paste it on something you’ll see throughout the day, like your phone’s background or a sticky on your computer. By focusing on just one word (i.e. “friendly” or “inquisitive” or “helpful”), you can have an M.O. for the day – a way for you to more easily fake it ‘til you make it, if you will. (<— Hey, that shiz is real!)

6. Come up with a mantra that’ll help you get through the day. Whether it’s your Giving Notice Day (“January 2nd; January 2nd; January 2nd”) or the end result (“I’m gonna be a dog trainer, I’m gonna be a dog trainer, I’m gonna be a dog trainer”), or a truth you believe in (“I deserve to be happy, I deserve to be happy, I deserve to be happy”) find the words that’ll calm you down and put things in perspective. Just try not to say them out loud in public at full volume, but you can always email me instead!! 

7. If you know the date you’re giving notice, start a backwards countdown on your calendar. I did this for the last 4 months I was at my day job (which is when I realized I could give my notice), and I loved sitting down to work each day and seeing that I was a day closer to my goal. It was super motivating, and also acted as my little secret, since there was nothing there but “53 days!” Exciting stuff.

Ya know what, though? Regardless of howyou do, you’re gonna do it, and that’s worth so, so much. Make sure that you pat yourself on the back and give yourself tons of credit for making (and acting on!) the plan to begin with! That’s more than most people do, and will absolutely give you a leg up when it’s time to hoof it out of there and shuffle off to become a Woman of the World (<– what I like to call “a full-time entrepreneur”). You can so do it! No horrible panic or purse-screaming required.  



What is stress?

HSE defines stress as ‘the adverse reaction people have to excessive pressures or other types of demand placed on them’.

Employees feel stress when they can’t cope with pressures and other issues. Employers should match demands to employees’ skills and knowledge. For example, employees can get stressed if they feel they don’t have the skills or time to meet tight deadlines. Providing planning, training and support can reduce pressure and bring stress levels down.

Stress affects people differently – what stresses one person may not affect another. Factors like skills and experience, age or disability may all affect whether an employee can cope. 

There are six main areas of work design which can effect stress levels. You should manage these properly. They are: 

  • demands
  • control
  • support
  • relationships
  • role
  • change

Employers should assess the risks in these areas to manage stress in the workplace.

Signs of stress

Stress is not an illness but it can make you ill. Recognising the signs of stress will help employers to take steps to stop, lower and manage stress in their workplace.

How to help

The earlier a problem is tackled the less impact it will have. If you think that an employee is having problems, encourage them to talk to someone, whether it’s their line manager, trade union representative, GP or their occupational health team.

Help for line managers to have simple, practical conversations with employees which can help prevent stress is available in our Talking Toolkits PDF.

To protect employees from stress at work, employers should assess risks to their health. These example stress risk assessments may help.

You may need to develop individual action plans for employees suffering from stress. HSE’s Management Standards may also help you to identify and manage the six causes of stress at work.


Listening to music is key to reducing stress and improving productivity, a global study has found.

The survey found that when people listened to their favourite song, 75 per cent felt lower stress.

Two thirds of people also said listening to music made them feel healthier than without music, while 61 per cent said it made them feel more confident at the gym.

And the survey found music was more effective than coffee in helping people get work done: with respondents saying music improved productivity by 50 per cent or more.

The study was carried out by Dr Daniel Müllensiefen, a music psychologist at Goldsmith’s, University of London, in collaboration with Sonos. More than 12,000 people were surveyed.

It also found higher quality sound has a positive effect on people’s experience of music. Those experiencing good sound liked the music 20 per cent more than those listening to a reduced quality.

Dr Müllensiefen said: “In summary, it can be said that a high sound quality has a significant correlation to stronger positive emotions, a richer musical experience and general happiness.

“It is also exciting to note that this is apparently not a culturally influenced effect, since there were hardly any differences in the results between the individual countries.”